ALONE, BUT NOT LONELY
“If you are want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind wanders” - Unknown
Hi, welcome back. In this post, I would like to deliver my thoughts about being alone but not lonely. As a person who spent her almost entire time being alone, I mean living alone, doing something alone, and even traveling alone. I think that I really suit this kind of thoughts hahahhaha
As a child, I was an active child who was playing around with a lot of friends. But as I grew older and began my middle school then moving to another city at the same time made me begin my different lifestyle and adapted into the different environment as well. Learning a new language, making friends, catching up with the school update, and being in a different culture and the list goes on.
As time goes by, as I get older. And my needs, mindset, and environment are changing. Sometimes, I am no longer looking for someone to accompany me like when we were a child. But it does not mean we do not need friends at all but being able to do everything by ourselves.
There is a thin line between being alone and being lonely, as an Introvert (myself) I really enjoy being alone hahaha, it is not like I don't have my friends or my family to be with. I will be with some of them at other times and occasions. But, it feels like I just tried to enjoy my lonely time and doing something I like alone. Reading books before bed is one of the activities I enjoyed so much during my personal time. Or going into a coffee shop while drinking your favorite cup of coffee and writing some thoughts on my laptop can really escape my loneliness.
On the contrary you are feeling alone when you are surrounded by some of your friends or your own family yet feel left out or disconnected with them. This is like being lonely when you have everyone in your life but you are feeling empty inside. It is because we cannot fulfill the needs in ourselves or we feel distressed while the socialized life pressuring us.
Somethings that I considered prevent my loneliness ;
Stop comparing yourself to others
As a human being, and living in society. We are often comparing our lives, looks, wealthyness, romantic life, and many others to other people. Just remember, we are different, we are unique in our way, we are worthy in others fields. So avoid comparing yourself to others.
Feel comfortable in your own color
In this point, I would like to say that being comfortable for what we are is the important key to truly connecting yourself to your inner self. Comfortable for what you are doing, for what you are wearing and for what you are having.
Have creative activities
In our busy life, aside from working we have activities as our hobby. To avoid loneliness, do not forget to do the activities you like. Reading books, traveling, cycling, shopping, writing or cooking. I really believe if you are doing something that you love, you will find happiness in it and it feels so good.
